I have been a very strong advocate and friend with unrelenting and sacrificial love for 5 generations of women for 20 plus years now. It has been imperative and very therapeutic and professionally recommended. So it is what I know so well. My life has been in the public eye for 20 plus years under the thumb and scrutiny of many great and influential mentors and friends and family.
Over the last week I shared personal and private information regarding Ken and I and our disagreement and I wanted to apologize to my facebook family, my church and to Ken. I now have the tools of Celebrate Recovery and my ladies step study class to handle matter pertaining to Ken and I and our church private and personal. I have spoken with my pastor in great detail of desiring to and advised to take the “higher road.” My pastor has suggested that women be treated like “Fine China.” Ken and I have patched things up and came to a communicating resolution over our disagreement and there will be beginning some significant move towards positive sinless actions and recourse involving our relationship. But I for one will be journaling, doing personal Inventory or speaking straigh to Ken or my sponsor about any further issues that may happen to arise along with our pastor. Thank you all for your continued support, outpouring of love, strong advisement, wisdom and understanding. Starting the Memorial Day weekend holiday off in these wee morning hours with my coffee amongst the honeysuckle and gardenia listening intently to the breeze and the windchimes blowing gently. Have yourself a beautiful day. Now onto continued blogging of recovery in life. Kindly, April
Alcovy Trestle Bridge: A violent history leaves bridge haunted…It’s been said that extreme violence leaves its mark on a place, and that those whose life ends in violence still wander the place they died. And legend has it, the Alcovy Trestle Bridge area is one of these places. According to some, it’s the site of more than one ghost.
In the 1940s, the Alcovy Trestle Bridge is rumored to be the site of several hangings carried out by vigilantes who would bring young black men from Newton and surrounding counties to the trestle, walk them down the long tracks, then hang them from the portion of the trestle that is directly over the Alcovy River. Once dead, they would reportedly cut the bodies loose and let them drop several feet into the waters below.
According to one woman who grew up in Newton, but now resides in Jasper County, she was once told of a black woman who was accused of seducing a prominent white family’s only son, at that time a teenager. The woman became pregnant, and though she swore that the relationship between the two had been initiated by the white teenager and begged for them to spare her life and that of her unborn child; her pleas fell on deaf ears. As the story goes, the woman was kidnapped and brought to the trestle bridge where she was violently beaten and then hanged from the bridge.
According to the Jasper County woman, several people, herself included, have seen “glowing” figures walking along the trestle and the figure of a young black woman holding her swollen belly, walking up the embankment from the Alcovy River toward the road.
“My son used to go out there and park,” she said. “You know, with his girlfriends. And one night he came home white as a ghost and shaking just like a leaf. I asked him what was wrong – I thought he’d wrecked the car or something like that – and he told me that he and this girl he’d been on a date with were out there parked and he looked up and there was a ghost right in front of the car. He said she was a black girl and she was real pregnant and holding her stomach and crying. He said that he raced out of there as fast as he could and I don’t believe he – or probably that girl he was with either – has ever been back out there.”
But for all the rumors, no one knows the identity the “glowing” figures that walk the trestle or of the girl who was hung there or the family that demanded her death.
But the hangings are not the only tragedy that area has witnessed. While some say the trestle bridge is haunted, others say it’s the current bridge that many drive over every day that has its own ghost.
Many people report seeing the apparition of a young boy riding his bike across the bridge. The thing that is different about this young man? Those who see him can look right through him because he is so translucent. And while no one can say for sure, those who remember are sure it is the ghost of a 13-year-old who was murdered in the area.
On August 8, 1986, the boy rode his bike from his brother’s home where he had spent the night to a convenience store where he was seen playing video games with another young man and an adult by the name of Johnny Wade who was on parole at the time. Witnesses say the boy loaded his bike into Wade’s pickup truck and got in with the man at around 1 p.m., presumably catching a ride back to his brother’s house.
Later that evening, the boy’s battered body was found in a clearing off a narrow dirt path that ran from Alcovy Trestle Road to the woods and river. He had been severely beaten around the head and strangled to death. Wade was quickly arrested and charged and, later, convicted, of the boy’s death. Wade died in prison in 2007 from throat cancer. Rumor has it the boy can be seen pedaling his bike up and down the bridge, standing up on the pedals as if to go faster, looking straight ahead, perhaps trying to get away from the scene of his death.
Hard for others to begin to imagine how just a few short 10 years ago there was no advocacy for domestic violence victims, family violence nor the mentally challenged. WOW! The world sure has taken a tail spin over the last 10 years of my life. What a difference in the world now with the public advocacy of such important and pressing issues and I for one will continue to be an active participant. Due to much success. The Sword of Truth. I will do more than belong; I will participate. I will do more than care; I will help. I will do more than be fair; I will be kind. I will do more than earn; I will enrich. I will do more than give; I will serve. I will do more than teach; I will inspire. I will do more than live; I will grow. I will do more than be friendly; I will be a friend.
21 Reasons Bad Things happen to Good People Summary. Dave Earley
I have been reading a great little book given to me by a friend and fellow ministry partner and opened it up as soon as i got home last night after bolting from church without telling everyone goodbye. Going it alone is deadly. As a pastor for many years, I have seen numerous believers pull back from the church when trouble hits their lives. Some are embarrassed, some are distracted, and some are easily disappointed. The reason they don’t participate in the body of Christ is not as important as that they decided to separate themselves. The feel hurt and choose to stay on the fringe “just until I heal.” But it doesn’t work . Isolating oneself when hurt is exactly the wrong way of thinking and responding. As a member of the body, we must be connected to the body to be fully healed. The body is amazingly equipped to heal the injured member in a miraculously small amount of time.
Attending Celebrate Recovery on Thursdays, Sunday morning worship service, growth group classes and just finishing up my ladies first step study and graduating with my Certified Peer Specialist certification I felt pretty good about life.
To win an unseen victory. To expand our perspective of God. To deepen our humility before God. To produce Greater Intimacy with God. To prepare us to receive far greater blessings. To position us for Higher Promotion. To prepare us for Miraculous. To increase the Testimony of God. To bring us To himself. To stretch us for greater growth. To remind us that we are not home yet. To shape us more like Jesus. to remind us that we are the Body of Christ. To equip us for further ministry. To remove our self – sufficiency. To expand our evangelistic efforts. To promote us to greater glory. To give us further instruction. To call us to increased Prayer. To refine our Faith.
I am working on finishing up this little book given me by a dear friend and fellow church ministry partner. Evidently the Lord knew I would need it coming up in my life. As my mind, heart and body have been abused and victimized during what was supposed to be a best friendship and Christian walk between two people I am struggling hard to find faith in mankind once again. Reaching into my faith for humanity and seeking my own soul and asking God to search me out and working with my Sponsor, given now that my rights as having a sponsor have been ethically violated and shared with others. Yes I have a Sponsor for Celebrate Recovery. I do not have nor suffer from addictive diseases such as drugs nor alcohol but have had a sponsor working with me through my ladies Step Study class. Working on the individual chapters nightly with warm tea. Taking a little while this evening to catch up on my reading.