On sharing and Advocacy

So I bore and tire and become exhausted to the point of breakdown over the parental alienation that still exists when Mr. Sasser and his parent’s who were all on board with the adoption and gave excellent references to said adoption. Mr. Sasser and his parent’s had 20 plus years if they had a complaint against me. And never. Not one exists to my knowledge nor that has ever been brought to my attention by anyone in this State of GA.

I ran into Mr. Alfred Brooks Coordinator of The Respect Institute of Georgia through Mr. Joel Slack and he hugged me and told me that I looked great and that he was so happy for me. I took The Respect Institute at St. Simons Island through View Point Health and The Georgia Mental Health Consumer Network and brought The Respect Institute back to View Point Health graduating from the program on Friday November 16th 2012. It was wonderful to run into Alfred and see his smiling face greet me with great kindness.

Between View Point Health, The Georgia Mental Health Consumer Network, The Respect Institute, The Georgia Peer Institute, The Georgia Department of Behavioral Health and Developmental Disabilities all of these groups and organizations encourage telling your and sharing your story and being a strong advocate for mental health and for yourself.

I have been a part of all the groups above graduating many conferences and The Respect Institute along with scholarship to The GA Peer Institute training.

I have been an advocate for twenty plus years now starting out in my early 20’s with my legally adopted step – daughter’s whose natural mother was found guilty of remiss, neglect and abuse throughout their lives so I adopted them as her rights were terminated and she agreed to just peaceable sign the paperwork for adoption.

Independent Adoption Report – State of Georgia

I. Verification of allegations contained in the petition

II. Circumstances under which the minor children came to be placed for adoption

III. Whether the proposed adoptive parent is financially, phsically and mentally able to have the permanent custody of the minor child

IV. The physical and mental condition of the minor children to be adopted

V. Whether or not the adoption is in the best interest of the minor children

VI. Suitability of the home to the minor children

VII. Other information – References

Four references were obtained on myself, Leslie Syles, school counselor, Julie Manders, school counselor, Mark Zielenske, family friend, Charles and Dot Sasser. All of the references support the adoption of the minor children by the petitioner, April Christina Fuller Sasser

I have been working for the State of Georgia in the health field as a Personal Support Assistant for the physically and mentally challenged and the elderly and still plan on pursuing my Certified Peer Specialist Certification using my experience in the health field to add to my skills, knowledge and working with the physically and mentally challenged as a PSA with my CPS Certification to accompany my Paralegal Certification and my Business/Legal Office Administration program degree.

I often write of advocating for all of the above and feel it necessary that I keep reminding this State of just exactly what it is to become a Certified Peer Specialist. As this State tore my life apart at one point ten years ago with no just cause ever and no wrongdoing, no hint, suggestion, implication nor accusation as to any wrongdoing on my behalf as a mother nor as a wife ever. Not ever. But yet my life was torn apart and was alienated from my four daughter’s.

Even in 2001 there were Certified Peer Specialists working for the Sate of GA:

This comes directly from the CPS brochure :

The Certified Peer Specialist requirements:

1000+ Georgia Certified Peer Specialists Since October 2001

The State has rectified their once mistake time and time again but it has changed nothing as far as the reunification process of me and my daughter’s and my ex- husband continuing to alienate and estrange us by the act of hate. I want this state of GA to know that there have been 1000+ Georgia Certified Peer Specialists Since October 2001. 

And the requirements include:

> Candidates must have diagnosis of mental illness or a dual diagnosis of mental illness and addictive disease and must desire to identify themselves as a person with mental illness current or former consumer of mental health services.

> Applicants must hold a high school diploma or GED and may be requested to provide a copy of this document.

> Must demonstrate strong reading comprehension and written communication skills as indicated on their responses on the pre – test which is part of the application.

> Must have demonstrated experience with leadership, advocacy or governance.

> Must be well grounded in recovery

These facts are taken directly from the Certified Peer Specialist brochure.

The motto of the CPS being “Each One Reach One.”

I feel if I can attend college, work and raise 5 children that I just need to continue to apply until my application is finally chosen.

I am currently working as a Personal Support Assistant for the State of GA which includes the following:

As a PSA Personal Support Assistant you may:

Monitor Feeding Tube

Encourage Proper Nutrition

Plan/Prepare Meals for Client

Ambulation/Transfers

Shower / Bath

Comb/ Brush

Shampoo

Soak/ Clean Nails

Monitor Skin Condition

Assist with Brushing

Oral Hygiene

Assist with Dressing

Assist with Toileting

Timely Continent Care

Take out Trash for Client

Wash Dishes for Client

Change Linen – Make Clients’ bed

Clean Client’s Bedroom

Dust, Mop, Sweep, Vacuum

Laundry for Client

Iron

Clean Client’s  Bathroom

Pick up Prescription Drugs

Arrange / Accompany to doctor

Grocery Shopping

Paying Bills

Reminding client to take all medications

And of course a great deal of paperwork that is expected to be kept as well.

Working as a PSA is a wonderful position and part of my life’s story that I will be sharing with ethics and privacy in mind of course.

I go into town to the historic Square and stare into the historic courthouse clock tower hands and am always reminiscing my life and giving thanks to the good Lord above for my many blessings. This November marks my 3rd year Anniversary with the Covington News as a full time blogger and photographer of my blog. I am proud to have this “voice.” Living without a “voice” is very harmful and can leave one with many and great fear and despair. As far as myself there was one year in 2005 where I was stripped of my right to read and write for nearly a year. It nearly killed me. It was as if my soul was being raped out of being forbidden literature or penning of any kind. I do not take my “voice” now for granted and am very grateful to be able to share at WordPress, The Covington News and Facebook. I can reach the world from the comfort of my own home and hope to reach the world making them aware of my wonderful, quaint hometown that I get to behold and enjoy every day. That being Covington, GA. During my marriage I was a resident of Conyers for nearly 15 years and am currently a resident of Rockdale County, Conyers but do plan to move into Walker’s Bend in Covington just as soon as the rest of the project is completed. I will be a stones throw away from the Square with sidewalks leading my way on both sides of the street in both directions.

For the last ten years I have spent my time in the courtroom advocating for the family violence victim, those that suffer parental alienation and estrangement, parental reunification and the mentally challenged and that we all have the right and privilege to be in an open, full and loving relationship with all of our children. I know that the state will not easily forget my case in Rockdale County or The Alcovy Judicial Circuit and I am grateful for their many wins to mine and my daughter’s behalf and just wait for the day that she decides to be a part of my life. My older girls know better and they have a choice. A choice to make. A mother that has never had any wrong doing on her part or a natural mother with  a long history of remiss, neglect and abuse in the State of GA.

My ex husband has and continues to lie to my children about our separation period and its reasons. My ex husband has allowed their natural mother to be a part of their lives when she was in a constant state of remiss, neglect and abuse in the state and in the courtroom. He has chosen hate over telling my children the truth of these matters and that our marriage was based solely on irretrievably broken / irreconcilable differences and nothing more and nothing less. He has chosen to lie to my children and to the community about the reasons of our divorce and my alienation period to my children.

In 20 plus years there has NEVER been the first or slightest hint, suggestion, implication nor accusation as to any wrong doing on my behalf as a mother NOR as  a wife to Mr. Sasser. Not ever. I was a pillar of my community and an excellent primary care giver to five children who spent her entire adult life with her children. Always being room mother, coaching cheer and basketball with my girls. Keeping them active in girls and boy scouts and softball and baseball along with chorus and beauty pageants. I have maintained a full, open and very loving relationship with my biological son Tyler over the years and have never suffered any type of parental alienation from my natural son Tyler who is now 22.

My daughter’s have no education and no future due to their father’s and natural mother’s remiss. All in their 20’s and no future in store as they have no high school nor formal education due to Mr. Sasser and their natural mother signing them out of school as young teenagers. Having grand child after grand child to add to the long list of my grand children and children that this State pays for.

A divorce that was so seriously mishandled that it ruined four girls lives forever. Paul Oeland was completely incompetent and Honorable Nancy Bills to be the head of the Rockdale County Family Violence Prevention group should have upheld her original prepared proposed Opinion being Mr. Sasser’s attorney that I would have custody of our youngest daughter and for Mr. Sasser NOT to interfere with the relationship of me and my older adopted daughter’s. NO ONE in this State of GA upheld that prepared proposed Opinion being Mr. Sasser’s very own attorney and all in my favor as full time primary care giver.

No one had the time evidently until  I brought the entire issue back up to the State of GA just as soon as I was possible able to in 2007 and 2008 continuing to present date 2014. With many wins to our full favor and behalf. My own biological daughter has been poisoned against me and with NO just reason, just cause NOR justification for doing so.

Mr. Sasser had ten years of a marriage and ten years of a divorce and custody and visitation hearings if there were to ever be any attempt at any wrong doing on my part as a mother or as  a wife and there NEVER has been.

In any event that involved domestic violence between me and Mr. Sasser I was always absolved of any wrong doing after full investigation and therapy.

Yet I still go suffering without my biological daughter in my life. My older girls can make their own decisions and I love them just as much but my 15 year old has been poisoned against me to no avail as strongly as possible and has decided not to be a part of my life at this point. I hope that one day my ex husband will wake up and smell the coffee as he has exposed them to a very well known confirmed child abuser as opposed to me a mother with no wrong doing on her part out of hatred and the simple fact that was the easiest and sure fire way for Mr. Sasser to hurt me. Through my children. Keeping them from me and filling their head full of lies about our alienation period.

Mr. Sasser and his parent’s even though there has never been the slightest inclination of wrong doing on my behalf have continually filled my children’s head full of lies and hate towards me with no justification to back them up.

Being alienated from my children due to being in the hospital for marital abuse, marital discord and depression has been a long tough road and one big huge lie to my four children and the community as Mr. Sasser has lied about the reasoning involved. Leaving me no other choice but to advocate for myself and my daughter’s and to defend my good name in the community as  a mother and wife to Mr. Sasser for over ten years during my 20’s.

We will never again be in perfect harmony as we were that last Christmas in 2003. And yet I will not give up advocating until we are.

There are already Christmas lights up on the historic Square. I was so thrilled to see them on in the tree. I was shocked though. As I walked across the parking lot of the Square the lights were still on and a gentleman pulled up and unplugged the tree. He told me “it is not the holidays just yet” I told him how I wanted my picture with the tree in front of The Mystic Grill. He said okay just unplug it once you finish with your picture. So I took the photo and unplugged the tree. Christmas decorations are up already but we must wait on the trees to be plugged in! I caught one early! If all the trees on the Square intend on looking as pretty as this one it will be spectacular. The tree was very pretty holding its sparkling array of lights.

I do not tire nor bore of the advocacy. I tire and bore and get exhausted to the point of breakdown over the parental alienation that still exists. Even though there have been numerous Judges and court hearings to our full favor in Order, Opinion and wishes of the Court’s for me and my daughter to have an open, full and loving relationship and for Mr. Sasser to seek family therapy which he will have no part of and has remained in a constant state of contempt of court since 2004 to present.

Even Honorable Bills knew there was something wrong as in her prepared proposed Opinion which is posted at WordPress to LaMalva and Oeland she had me attending therapy and counseling for codependency as the caregiver. Not the alcoholic nor drug addict nor addictive diseases but the caregiver to others with alcoholism, drug and gambling issues of their very own. I took codependency classes at Peachford and have taken many codependency classes at Celebrate Recovery at Eastridge in Covington as the caregiver to others with serious and severe problems of their own so I care take. I have came a long way where this is concerned and yet I have been single for over ten years now. I have dated but not been in an exclusive serious future rewarding relationship. One to call my own again.

So I bore and tire and become exhausted to the point of breakdown over the parental alienation that still exists when Mr. Sasser and his parent’s who were all on board with the adoption and gave excellent references to said adoption. Mr. Sasser and his parent’s had 20 plus years if they had a complaint against me. And never. Not one exists to my knowledge nor that has ever been brought to my attention by anyone in this State of GA.

The State of GA in 2004 taking me out of the equation of my daughter’s lives has been nothing but a living hell and a mockery of this State and has ruined my daughter’s lives, welfare and education. They were not taken care of like I did involved with each and everything in their lives. Now I just have grandchild after grandchild that this State of GA has had to pay for given my three older adopted daughter’s continue to keep having babies with no formal education. I love them none the less but this is fact and it makes me irate that my daughter’s have had to suffer and that their future’s are still to this day at a very high risk ten years later.

This State ten years ago raping us of our once very strong and loving bond overnight due to my being in the hospital for marital abuse, marital discord and depression along with codependency as the caregiver.

I have fought long and hard for over ten years now in the State of GA court system letting them handle everything as I typically have no contact with Mr. Sasser other than a few conversations of facebook where he was being his usual abusive self.

I have fought for family violence victims, those who suffer parental alienation, the mentally challenged and for parental reunification rights with therapeutic process in this State. And won every hearing since 2008 to present in our full favor encouraging the relationship between me and my youngest daughter of 15 years old. With  encouraged family therapy. That Mr. Sasser will never agree to even though it is the Court’s Opinion and wishes. He has never gotten my daughter’s the court ordered therapy for reunification process that was ordered. I have seen my 15 year old daughter one time in ten years and spent an hour with her where she did want to be a part of my life and was very open to seeing me and being a part of our conversation.

My daughter’s can get upset all they want about my advocacy. I do not care. It is encouraged throughout the State of GA so I do just that. I do as I have been taught. All the groups and organizations and then some are mentioned here in this blog. This State of GA pushes for Advocacy and sharing your story. I am still planning to go forward with talks with Mr. Rick Jeffares and Mr. Andy Welch of the State of GA for Charli Savannah’s Law that I have been in conversation with both State Representatives in the past and still plan on working on my ideas for children to have their own attorney during the course of a divorce procedure and not the attorney handling the divorce process and procedure as they clearly do not give a damn about the children only their lively hood as an attorney and winning the divorce procedure.  Children deserve to have their own legal representation. CASA in the State of GA is NOT enough and NEVER will be.

I do as my mentors have taught me by and through this State of GA.

I share and I will continue to share until full reunification process has taken place between me and my daughter’s.

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