Heading into my 11th Anniversary of the final straw that brought me to opening up about the family violence I had endured over the years and the diagnosis of marital abuse, depression and codependency as the caregiver to Mr. Sasser’s bad habits. Habits that even to this day Mr. Sasser would never admit to causing me pain, grief and agony. Just as he was abusive to me he has also neglected the importance of me in my children’s lives to spite the several judges that have told him otherwise and advised him to stay out of our relationship. He is still in contempt and still managing to alienate us to this very day. Fact of the matter abusing my very own girls as well in his quest to bash and vanquish me from their lives. Forensic record tells the truth of the matter. As my girls will one day soon see. Whether it is by my hand or a blog to book that the world gets to read even further into my life. Even more than I have ever posted online or at my Covington News blog over the last nearly 4 years. I have been nice in comparison to the life I led for over ten years.
The last year before our alienation and separation was spent at my work with me and my children in attendance at all the GA Force indoor arena league football team games in Gwinnett County. My children spent that last year in 2003-2004 with me at my place of employment and at every home game with me and their friends. Even cheering on the field with the GA Force cheerleaders as I worked as Contract Paralegal handling their leases and leasing office assistant and turn key manager for the apartment community I was employed with at the time. That was how we spent our last year together. Wonderful memories made. Mr. Sasser never being present at my work nor at any of the games.
This 11 year anniversary holds a very different life for me than it did 10 years ago in August of 2004 when I was hospitalized for marital abuse, family violence, depression and codependency as the caregiver to Mr. Sasser. With the abuse being reported by Northside Hospital Emergency Room to The Rockdale County Sheriff’s Department while I was still in the hospital.
I was fragile, frail and aching all over in August of 2004. Today I am working as a nursing assistant working on heading towards working as a Certified Peer Specialist at some point in my future. At the time in August of 2004 I had bought my own home in Covington, GA near Jackson Lake and my son and youngest daughter were living with me. My older three adopted girls were visiting on a regular basis. I went for a job interview one day and when I returned to get my youngest daughter my ex father in law threw her into the back seat of the car and drove away with her with her screaming. I was devastated. I was scared to death and never imagining as I was the primary care giver for over ten years to my 5 children that I would have to endure and suffer the grief and anguish of parental alienation with Mr. Sasser achieving his goals of hate, bashing and the estrangement between me and my girls. At the time he achieved his goal of separating us.
Since August of 2004 to present me and my girls have won many court hearings to our full favor as Mr. Sasser has continued to without a justifiable reason to make up excuses, tell lies and stories and alienate me from my girls. As there has NEVER been any wrong doing on my behalf as a mother nor as a wife to Mr. Sasser to be brought to my attention nor asked of me. All out of Mr. Sasser’s hate and vengeance to have his way with my girls to spite what several judges have told him through the years regarding it being in my girls best interest to be a part of my life.
I was hospitalized and broken. My body was mentally and physically shattered with the kidnapping of my youngest daughter and the family violence with Mr. Sasser. I never thought for the life of me that I would be working as a nursing assistant and well on my way to working as a Certified Peer Specialist for the State of Georgia. But this anniversary I can say I have conquered the medical stigma and trauma by working as a nursing assistant and having the opportunity to apply for the essay exam to become a CPS for The GA Mental Health Consumer Network. Applying until I am accepted is my plan. Then onto the mental health world for me and helping others to lay their claim to recovery and ensuring them that they can overcome and rise to the “challenge” of being mentally challenged. I will this August also be completing training in Stephen Ministry at Eastridge Community Church in Covington and using my Stephen Ministry skills learned to help those in my community, at work, at church and as a CPS for the State of Georgia. Leaving behind a lasting legacy for the O.C.G.A. for family violence victims, parental alienation, parental reunification and the mentally challenged was my goal as I set out to accomplish with my filing back against Mr. Sasser in 2005 which I did as the court had not at the time made any sort of ruling and it was to be determined by said court at a later date with the Honorable Nation presiding of which me and my girls won the hearing and have had many to our full behalf and favor in Rockdale and The Alcovy Judicial Circuit.
With my 11 year anniversary approaching in less than a month I wanted to get out some on The Yellow River to clear my head and thoughts and have a few moments of meditation to gather myself, collect myself and to pray. My girls will see the entire truth behind my 20 plus year history of being an advocate for them and for all my children. As I plan to make sure they see it for their own eyes as they have grown to accept a learned behavior of hate and defiance per Mr. Sasser raising them with hate in their hearts for me. With no justifiable reason whatsoever that Mr. Sasser has EVER mentioned. Not once in ten plus years of court hearings.
My 11 year anniversary approaching August 8th of this year I will be spending time out in the fresh air and warm sunshine and applying for my CPS certification along with taking Stephen Ministry training classes. So all in all this will be a very good anniversary for me other than still being alienated and kept from my girls only with hate and malice in the hearts and minds of The Sasser’s. They have had 20 plus years if there ever was to be a complaint about me. And yet NONE exist. And still they continue with the hate and malice in their hearts and minds with that vengeance carrying over into my girls lives teaching them hate. Which is not what I have stood for these past 20 plus years of raising children.
I am hoping that with Stephen Ministry training in August that I will be able to visit and minister with the ladies of The Newton and Rockdale County jails. I have visited the Newton County Jail and had my intake interview and am on the waiting list of ladies desiring to minister and fellowship with the ladies. I hope to let them all know that I once sat where they are sitting and that there are great things to come. That it does not come without hard work, commitment and devotion nor does it come easy but it is manageable and workable to achieve their desired goals just as I have done so and pray to continue to bear good fruits.
Being in a much more stable environment and situation than I was nearly 11 years ago and certainly having come a long way since that August in 2004. Speaking about the “before” me and the “after” me to a large group of View Point Health employees this year using my resources from being a graduate of The Respect Institute to tell my story. I never thought I would have the “before” me back again and it has certainly been a crazy ride and strange set of circumstances to contend with that I was not prepared to have to face and carry all the burden of but yet in the face of adversity I have done so.
Thanking you the reader for continuing to follow me into my nearly 4th year of blogging at The Covington News and with my story and journey into the mental health world working as a nursing assistant with the physically and mentally challenged prepping myself to apply this summer for my CPS Certification.
It really infuriates me that in 2001 there were Certified Peer Specialists yet I was alienated from my girls. With the requirements of becoming a CPS to include the following:
1100+ Georgia Certified Peer Specialists Since October 2001
Since 2001 to present
I have written often of becoming a Certified Peer Specialist to include the following requirements:
> Candidates must have diagnosis of mental illness or a dual diagnosis of mental illness and addictive disease and must desire to identify themselves as a person with mental illness current or former consumer of mental health services.
> Applicants must hold a high school diploma or GED and may be requested to provide a copy of this document.
> Must demonstrate strong reading comprehension and written communication skills as indicated on their responses on the pre – test which is part of the application.
> Must have demonstrated experience with leadership, advocacy or governance.
> Must be well grounded in recovery
These facts are taken directly from the Certified Peer Specialist brochure.
The motto of the CPS being “Each One Reach One.”
Not to mention being under the microscope for the last twenty plus years to include the following during adopting my girls in 1999 during my pregnancy and just prior to starting college.
Independent Adoption Report – State of Georgia
I. Verification of allegations contained in the petition
II. Circumstances under which the minor children came to be placed for adoption
III. Whether the proposed adoptive parent is financially, phsically and mentally able to have the permanent custody of the minor child
IV. The physical and mental condition of the minor children to be adopted
V. Whether or not the adoption is in the best interest of the minor children
VI. Suitability of the home to the minor children
VII. Other information – References
Four references were obtained on myself, Leslie Syles, school counselor, Julie Manders, school counselor, Mark Zielenske, family friend, Charles and Dot Sasser. All of the references support the adoption of the minor children by the petitioner, April Christina Fuller Sasser
The actual date factually being August 5th 2004. The day I died and was bound and determined to rise from the ashes of despair and being raped over the coals by The Judicial system. All for my girls and my love, devotion and promise to be the best mother to them that I could be. Which I feel strongly that I have achieved.
Sharing in the majority of my life with my reader and bearing much of my soul and life. But not all has been told as I have been very selective as to the descriptive details of the abuse and pretty much kept it to myself and for my therapist. Coping and thriving in a world where four girls are dead to me due to this State’s incompetence and neglect for the facts and truth. Until I shown the light on the circumstances for them carrying the heavy burden of lifting me and my children up to the courts and being at their mercy with justice finally being served year after year yet Mr. Sasser and The Sasser’s continue this world of hate and malice with my 4 girls even given their natural mother has been confirmed with remiss, neglect and abuse towards my girls along with losing all her rights and then surrendering them for me to adopt them in 1999.
I have been open with a great deal of my life and plan to explain a little more as to why I have been so open or rather hopefully get through to someone whom I care a great deal for and have been sharing in and of my life for their benefit as well. Planning our Kayak trip down The Yellow River Water Trail.
Visiting at The Porterdale Yak and with their facebook page containing the following information about kayaking :
Thurs – Sat:10:00–18:00 Sun:12:00–18:00
Short DescriptionKayak rentals for the Yellow River located in historical Porterdale Village.
Long DescriptionOpen Thursday thru Sunday’s from early Spring until late Fall. Please call in advance for your reservations 678-863-1666.
A…ll kayaks are sit-on-top kayaks, includes lifevest and paddle. This seven mile section of the river is a flat-water trail, no strong current or white water.Thursday & Friday rates are $25.00 for each kayak.
Saturday, Sunday & holiday Monday’s rates are $35.00 for each kayak.
Here’s where we strive to be a great outfitter…We don’t offer scheduled trip times. There’s no hourly rate, no being packed on a bus, no wait, rush & hurry shenanigans.
It’s your time off, you earned your money and it’s chill time…. enjoy this beautiful water trail, paddle at your pace, stop at a sandbar have a snack, find your balance in life again with the flow of the river.