Advocate Awareness

Independent Adoption Report – State of Georgia

I. Verification of allegations contained in the petition

II. Circumstances under which the minor children came to be placed for adoption

III. Whether the proposed adoptive parent is financially, phsically and mentally able to have the permanent custody of the minor child

IV. The physical and mental condition of the minor children to be adopted

V. Whether or not the adoption is in the best interest of the minor children

VI. Suitability of the home to the minor children

VII. Other information – References

Four references were obtained on myself, Leslie Syles, school counselor, Julie Manders, school counselor, Mark Zielenske, family friend, Charles and Dot Sasser. All of the references support the adoption of the minor children by the petitioner, April Christina Fuller Sasser

At Doraville First Baptist church in Doraville, Georgia my pastor has been preaching out of the book of Revelation. He pointed out a very interesting fact last Sunday. It is Revelation not Revelation(s), as most people call it by. I have enjoyed the last two sermons. I worked the summer of 1990 at Ridgecrest Baptist Conference Center in North Carolina. My favorite verse in Revelation is 1:8, I am the Alpha and the Omega. The pastor told me that he would be preaching out of the book of Revelation for the rest of the year. I know I will be paying attention and no sleeping in church. The pastor recognized me in front of the entire congregation Mothers Day sunday with a very special gift for being a wonderful mother and one who has suffered as a mother. I am on the prayer list at church for fervent prayer.

I have 5 children. Tyler, Charli Savannah, Destiny, Brittany and Amber. Tyler is my biological son and Charli Savannah the youngest daughter is my biological daughter. Destiny, Brittany and Amber were my stepdaughter’s through marriage to Chuck Sasser, I adopted the girls in 1999 the same year my biological daughter was born.

In 2003 I worked as a leasing consultant for RAM Partners out of Atlanta. I started out working at Main Street Conyers and then went a short time later to work at Paces Commons in Gwinnett County, Georgia. I managed the account of the Georgia Force indoor arena league football team, which was very exciting. Me and children went to every game. My children loved it. My youngest daughter of the three I adopted Amber had her birthday party with the force and was able to cheer on the field with the cheerleaders.

In December of 2003 there were two company parties. One at the Clubhouse at Lenox and one for RAM Partners, I stood side by side at the bar for a mere few seconds with a man that I will never forget. I wish I wish I wish that I would have spoken to him. I have wondered about him since that party in December of 2003 at the clubhouse.  Once, in 2005 I mistook him for someone else. As it turned out the individual who I thought was him was not him. I thought that I finally found him, but no that was not the case. The photograph of my children under my page, (my children) I decorated the christmas tree at Paces Commons. I love that photograph of my children. The last Christmas they spent together as a family of 5 children and a beautiful memory of decorating the christmas tree at Paces Commons.

My anniversary in November and Christmas in 2003 was a joyous time for us in the Sasser household. I never suspected that a divorce would be coming.  in the near future. There were no warning signs or signals. Me and my ex husband had a very volatile relationship at times throughout our 10 years of marriage. But at that stage of our lives I never suspected that he would file for a divorce. He filed for a divorce in February of 2004. (which has turned out to be one of the best milestones of my life.) In the summer of 2004 I purchased a house in my name near Jackson Lake in Covington, Georgia which I lost in 2005. My father was helping me out with the payments give my health and mental status at the time. But he became ill and then was diagnosed  with cancer and was no longer to help me financially.

In 2004 my youngest daughter Charli Savannah was in my custody with the documents typed up and ready to be signed by Judge Sidney Nation of the Rockdale Judicial Circuit. In August of 2004 my father in law and daughter Brittany put Charli in the back of the car and took off with her. Me and my ex husband had a family violence incident that occurred as a result of Charli being taken in such a manner. They would not return her to me. The family violence incident occurred in August of 2004 and I presented to Northside Hospital in Atlanta, Georgia where I was seen in the emergency room and the staff found it necessary to report the incident to the Rockdale County sheriffs department. I was then told by the staff of Northside that I could either stay there for a few days or go to Peachford Hospital for rest, recovery and counseling from the family violence incident. I still remember the nurse telling me that if I was fighting for custody of my daughter that I probably did not want to go to Peachford. I was so distraught. My aunt and My mother who were both nurses decided to take me to Peachford Hospital where I was diagnosed with marital discord and marital abuse. I was also given a diagnosis of Codependency. I am the caregiver and enabler. I have never had problems with alcohol, drugs, gambling, etc. that come along with Codependency. I am the opposite, on the other end of the spectrum of Codependency. I was hospitalized for approximately 2 weeks. The first night I was there I was really scared and stayed up the entire night pacing the floor, for some reason I was so upset that I felt like somebody wanted to kill me. My doctor told me that it was from the trauma I had suffered from my daughter being taken and the marital abuse. Upon release I was given a letter that I was in stable condition and was not a harm to myself or to others. In the mean time while I was hospitalized my ex husband and his attorney had a court hearing without my being present and the Judge issued a court order of a protective order for my 4 daughters against me. I know for a fact that the Sherrifs Department record of abuse and my medical records were not presented to the court at that time. I know this because I gave them to the court some years later during a Pro Se hearing and found out that the judge had never seen the records of the marital abuse and discord nor any of my physical or mental hospitalization records. I saw my 4 daughters at Christmas in 2004 for a couple of hours. I hated to have to leave them and it seemed so unfair that I had to in the first place given the fact that I was a wonderful mother and a pillar of the community. I was chastised for being admitted to Peachford without Judge Sidney Nation even being made aware of all the facts of the matter. I also saw my 4 daughters for Valentine’s Day in 2005 for about an hour. I have not seen Charli Savannah, Destiny or Amber since Valentines of 2005. I have seen Brittany once, just a few weeks ago who is pregnant with her second child. We hugged and talked for a while. It was so good to see her. Her voice sounded so old, like an adult, not the voice that I knew of a young girl. I have been estranged from my daughters since 2004 following my hospital stay at Peachford. At one point Judge Sidney Nation had ordered an evaluation of mental status. I had been seeing Dr. Anna Marie Paulsen and had the evaluation. Upon my return to court however she was available at that particular hearing and I was incarcerated for 10 days for contempt. Since 2004 I have seen numerous doctors and counselors and they have all agreed that I suffered from marital abuse and a mood disorder from being separated from my daughters.

I have had several court hearings in Rockdale County Georgia and two in Walton County Georgia. I began my case Pro Se for numerous months and then got to the point where I had to hire and attorney, I have had two attorneys, my current attorney is Mathew Ledbetter of Covington, Georgia. The case was transferred from Rockdale County to Walton County due to jurisdiction and venue reasons. It stared out with Judge Samuel Ozburn of the Alcovy Judicial circuit and was then sent to Juvenile court Judge Rhymer. I had a parental fitness evaluation during the course of the hearings and was deemed fit and able to be a part of my youngest daughters life. My ex husband had nearly 2 years of a divorce to challenge my mothering skills and present anything he wanted or had to the court in Rockdale County to Judge Nation, there has NEVER been a question or evidence presented pertaining to my mothering. NOT from any attorney, not from any state agency, not from any Judge. I will stress again, there has never been a question raised or anything presented per my mothering being unbecoming or an unfit mother. NO evidence or question of the sort.

In July of 2010 per Judge Rhymer I was finally awarded visitation of my youngest daughter Charli Savannah. I assumed that at that point that the situation was resolved and that I would be a part of Charli’s life again. I have missed out on my daughter’s lives for no reason, other than the fact of presenting to Peachford hospital for marital abuse, marital discord and the kidnapping of my daughter Charli. Given the court order of July 2010 I was so excited that I would be a part of her life again. However, my ex husband Chuck Sasser has not followed through with the court’s order of the visitation. It is now May 2011 nearly a year later and I have still not seen my youngest daughter Charli. My attorney filed a contempt action against Mr. Sasser and I return to court tomorrow, May 24th at 9:30 Judge, Samuel Ozburn presiding. I am not sure of what the outcome will be. I hope that Judge Ozburn enforces the ruling of the visitation handed down by Judge Rhymer. I doubt seriously that he will be found in contempt to the point of incarceration, but I do hope the judge makes it clear to him that he is to follow the court’s order and follow through with the process of our reunification.  So May 24th, 2011 will be a new chapter of my life, given the last Chapter of July 2010, I thought that the next chapter would be full of love and my daughter Charli. Now this chapter is still to be continued. Prayers and thoughts are so appreciated.

I have never had any problems being a part of my son’s life. He did go to live with his father during my stay at Peachford, but his father Craig Daniel has never hindered our relationship or kept him from me. My son has always been a part of my life. He has been living with me this past Spring. My son does miss Charli as well. He has seen Brittany several times through a mutual friend, but to my knowledge has not seen Destiny or Amber. He did see Charli once and told me how pretty and tall she was. Charli has never attended any of the court hearings. There was once that she was brought to  the chambers of Judge Nation to meet with him. Even though I had a subpoena for two doctor’s, a licensed clinical social worker, a nurse from Northside and the investigator from the Rockdale County sheriff’s department ALL present in Judge Nation’s courtroom to testify on my behalf. NONE of the individuals were heard. Judge Nation did not have them testify. I was told that I needed depositions of all the individuals. I am not sure why he did not allow them testify on my behalf, given that he was so concerned with my mental status and given the fact of how long it had been since I had seen my daughters. I feel that he should have taken and heard their testimony on my behalf. I was very upset and saddened that he did not call upon them.

I always worry when there is a hearing scheduled. I hope like hell and pray fervently that I will be able to be a part of my daughter’s life after this hearing tomorrw. I have made her a photo album with photographs of me and her, her as a toddler, her and Tyler at her first birthday, etc. I will be so happy when I am able to share it with her, and us have some quality time together, me her and Tyler.

You may view some of the documents and letters (a synopsis) of these events at this link https://aprilfullersasser.wordpress.com/advocate-awareness/

 

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